For the past month and change, I've been dating a Vietnamese woman I met on an app. I haven't mentioned it because it wasn't really important at the time - it was part of my life, but rather a personal part and didn't directly impact my travels or produce general interest stories.
Well, that's not entirely true. She was my company at Thang Long, providing some context and translation and also learning a bit from me. But I'd likely have gone to Thang Long anyway so I didn't count it. Haha.
Whatever the case, she's become more of an active part of my explorations.
A couple weeks ago, we tried to visit a pagoda/temple. I say "tried" because for reasons we didn't understand (that weren't posted anywhere or commonly known to anything she could find online), it was closed. Still, there was a neat sculpture near the entrance. She told me there was a particular food popular near the pagoda that we should try, so we walked to a nearby shop famous for it. Our route taking us along the lake, I happened to see this picturesque place and fail to capture it well on my little phone camera.
The dish in question is in the bottom center here: banh tom, or fried shrimp pancake. Like many Vietnamese dishes, it's eaten by dipping into a sauce that's largely fish sauce-based with customization options at the table such as chilis and kumquat or lime. The cups of sauce were placed on the table for us to tinker with well before the food arrived. My date added a few things and then used a spoon to taste it. I failed to fully understand what she was doing and thought this was a slightly thick soup, so after making some additions of my own, I just started spooning it down, even sipping straight from the cup at one point. This drew a very confused look from her, and lead to a good laugh for both of us after she explained what it was. Exploring new foods is sometimes an interesting adventure indeed.
I also learned that pho, which has become quite common in the US, actually refers not to the soup in general but to the kind of noodles it uses (sort of both, I suppose, in the way that a hamburger refers both to the sandwich and to the meat itself). But this was drilled home by the other two dishes we ordered, rolled pho and fried pho (top left and top right, respectively). Both were good in their own way. It all made me think about Domino's and how they've elevated repackaging pizza to an art form. "Here," the company says, "have pizza, and as a side, have pizza rolls. As an appetizer, here's cheesy breadsticks that you dip in pizza sauce but definitely isn't just pizza again!"
Our visit to the pagoda wasn't successful insofar as we actually got to see the pagoda itself, but at least I discovered more foods.
Last weekend, my date and I planned a little getaway to Tam Dao, which is named for its elevation and the way it is often in the clouds. Despite being only about an hour away, it didn't take long for the urban density of Hanoi to give way to more open spaces and rural lands.
Tam Dao is a mountain town, sort of a small resort - high tourism, lots of hotels and similar places, fairly small permanent population. Our stay had a very cozy room, a swimming pool (we didn't use because it was cold and a little dirty), some really pretty landscaping and general integration with the terrain, and downright excellent food. And, as always, I'm tall.
We stayed for two nights, but happened to both get sick in the day or two leading up to the trip. We opted to go anyway as we have very limited time together, but it meant we didn't really go anywhere or see anything in the area. Yesterday we returned, though we found this neat cafe with this huge, cool statue thing. The whole town really leverages the views by building onto the hillsides. It makes me think about Estes Park, where I've lived many years of my life, and how most of the shops and restaurants in town are in the valley of it, sort of squeezed together, and actually most of the mountainside space is residential. So while Estes does have great scenery, it isn't really...*utilized* the same way. And in some ways I think that is to its detriment...a missed opportunity of sorts.
I have less than two weeks left in Hanoi. In many ways, it has felt, inexplicably, like the longest stay of my brief nomad life thus far. The perception of time is a funny thing. I've started dipping into Latvian. The app I've used has a lot of phrases and words and such and it's a little overwhelming, and because I struggle with self-motivated learning, it can be hard to get a lot of the value that it has. However, it did have one phrase I've decided I need to learn everywhere I go: "What do you recommend?"
For Latvian, this is "ko jus varetu ieteikt?" I'm missing some accent markers but that's close enough. It's a really cool sounding language to me for some reason, kind of a mix between Russian or Polish and Italian.
The thing is, when living in a new place with no real food familiarity, I often wind up not going anywhere or trying anything due largely to choice paralysis. It's daunting to look at a menu of unfamiliar words, particularly if there are no or few pictures, and just...choose something. Even running it through translation doesn't always help. But now, I can learn a phrase that just requests specific assistance in making that choice, and maybe lets someone feel like they're doing a good thing or introducing someone to a thing they like. And most people, I've found, will appreciate that opportunity.
And maybe some will use it to screw with me and order me something horrible. And then I'll know not to go back and not to get that thing again. I'll be a little hungry but I'll try to laugh at being "gotten." Laugh at yourself before anyone else can.
I assume I won't post again until I've left Hanoi. I expect my last two weeks to be relatively mundane, largely preparing for the move and such. But I reserve the right to change my mind 😉